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i don't think i even know what field hockey *is*
As scheduled, Scott helped me move my large furniture from the old apartment into the house on Bagley on Monday afternoon. I was dreading having to ask someone to help me move, but then he preemptively volunteered! He turned down any portion of the hundreds of dollars in moving fees that he saved me, but I convinced him to let me buy him dinner.

Living in the house is going very well so far, but I wonder if it's a little *too* quiet for the Airbnb guest. This house reflects the personality of the person who runs it. When Joe lived here, it may have been a little dusty and chaotic, but it was warm, friendly, welcoming and active. Now that I'm here, it's cold, empty, sterile and lifeless. The only person I've had over since Joe moved out was Scott when he was helping me move. I've been busy with moving, cleaning and the family things going on, but I promise to eventually host gatherings.

Yesterday I had my first person burst in thinking Joe still lived here. He was one of the people who worked on the recent video of WSU students playing Zelda and the Unibrows music and recognized me as the composer of the Recordare. He was looking for software he loaned Joe, and just knocked on the door and walked in. At least it wasn't Mindy.

Speaking of Mindy, she is still around. The other morning I saw her walk up to the house and sit in one of the chairs outside. She left a book about the Catholic Rosary on the table out there, which I forgot to give away/recycle. This morning when I was leaving for work I saw that the plants out front had already been watered and that the hose was jumbled up instead of neatly coiled. It was nice of her to want to water the plants for me. She also left a used bathroom floor mat on the side steps, which of course I had to throw away. In place of the book on the side table there were pieces of some kind of animal bone. I don't know...

I only worked a half day today because I had to pick up my brothers from the airport, who of course flew in for my grandpa's funeral. On the way I stopped at Meijer to pick up some important Paul supplies: diet pop, new lacey curtains for the bathroom, and decaffeinated Earl Grey tea. How am I not gay?

No, I'm definitely straight. While Andrew and I were waiting for Matt to get off his plane, Andrew rolled his eyes when I got all excited by an entire team of field hockey girls walking by. Thirty short, athletic, tomboyish brunettes all at once! So undeniably feminine--and yet rugged! This reminded me of part of my problem with relationships, which is that I'm attracted to women whose interests I don't share. For example, I love hippies, but I hate marijuana and New Age beliefs. Punk girls are hot, but I'm not really into violence and alcohol, or even their music for that matter. And of course field hockey girls are irresistible, but I think that sports are the biggest waste of time and money in the history of civilization. I need to find a type/scene/subculture that I find superficially sexy AND whose interests I actually share.

Librarians? They actually do have a kind of a subculture....

They absolutely do! My friend Sarah is a librarian and she has a group of librarian friends, but I don't think I feel drawn to them in general. And I'm not much of a reader. :P

No reading for you! I'm positive of it!

Yes, but you like research. At least in my librarian friends, that's what they really find fun. I mean, yes, also reading, but also... Lol anyway. Oh well.

Besides, it makes more sense to start with a subculture you have things in common with and find the exceptional ones that you are attracted to than to try to start by looking at a general population you find attractive and have nothing in common with and try to find the one or two that DO have something in common with you...

I'm thinking historians, librarians, preservationalists... And then in those groups, find a couple attractive ones! =) Anyway... I'm sure you actually already know this, so I'll stop haha...

Also... I've been meaning to say... Just because someone isn't a vegan doesn't mean that they never would be... When people become serious about each other, things shift so you have more matching priorities lots of the time... Better to look for what you want that won't change than to look for things that can and/or probably will.

However, I know it's cheesy but your best bet is usually to just stop looking at all and spend that time doing things you enjoy that do involve people. Real life relationships tend to lead to other real life relationships.

Just my opinion... From a girl who never really "dated", and has never done the online stuff before... So take it for what it is haha

Re: No reading for you! I'm positive of it!

This is why I don't comment. I get too long an ramblie. Lol...

Re: No reading for you! I'm positive of it!

Someone doesn't have to be vegan for me to date them. I'll date a vegetarian. That's still technically a compromise, right?

I was going to say that there aren't groups of researchers and preservationists that hang out, but then I remembered the Detroit Drunken Historical Society, whose invitations I have declined. Maybe I should start actually attending their events despite "drunken" being in their title. I don't assume there are a lot of single late 20s/early 30s ladies who attend, but I guess I can't assume if I've never been to any of their events.

Rambles are welcome, and cheesy advice is still welcome! For what it's worth, I've been doing the "not looking" thing for a few weeks now. That's mostly because I've been busy with other things, but so far the "not looking" method is definitely *less* effective than the "actually looking" method. But I'll give it another couple weeks.

Re: No reading for you! I'm positive of it!

Hahaha.. I'm pretty sure that making "not looking" a method is still a method, or form of looking. I feel like its more about... Just living life, doing things that you enjoy, meeting people who enjoy some of those same things without even really considering a relationship passed friendship. It's in friendship that real things can take hold and grow, very rarely (in my opinion) out of attraction. Yes, that's gotta be there too obviously but... I feel like we get sucked into thinking that's where we should start, and... If we do... Well, it's not probably gonna last too long. How we look changes all the time. It's someone's heart and soul that needs to be attractive, at least to me. But again, nothing new. Just have been wishing you weren't having such a struggle, since it seems like you can be a good partner for someone.